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Huh?

Oct 06, 2014
by Caroline Miller
Harold Pinter, language is natrual to humans, Let's Talk, Mark Dingemanse, N. J. Enfield
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After spending an August afternoon shopping with her granddaughter for back to school clothes, a friend sent me an email saying that all the child talked about was her determination not to be a chatterbox in the coming year.  A month has passed since that conversation and I’m wondering how the girl’s resolve is holding up. 

Keeping silent is a difficult undertaking for most of us.  Language is natural to our species and kicks in before we have any concept of words or sentences or grammar.  Watch a baby copy it’s mother’s cooing and you’ll see how strong this impulse for speech can be.  (“Let’s Talk,” by Mark Dingemanse and N. J. Enfield, Scientific American Mind, Sept/Oct 2014 pgs. 64-68.)  In fact, research shows that the basic structure of communication conforms to a universal convention, one that is instinctively understood by all humans, regardless of their language.

 One of the first rules is to speak in turn, as if playing a game of tennis.  There are times when we override this protocol, if we’re angry or excited, for example, but we seldom offend during ordinary conversation.  Not only do we wait for our turn to speak, but we intuitively know when the other person’s sentence is going to end, and use that interval to formulate our response. 

Lulls in a conversation have meaning, too.  The playwright, Harold Pinter was a master at using the silence between sentences to increase tension.  He understood, as we all do, that if a pause is too long, anxiety sets in.  Authors Dingemanse and Enfield report that the average break in conversations is about 200 milliseconds or “less time than it takes to blink and eye.” (Ibid pg. 67)  A gap of 500 milliseconds may be interpreted as rejection or an indication that something is wrong.  

 At other times, when conversation falls off the track, someone will interject with a, “Huh?”   Huh is a universal term that crosses most cultures and languages, possibly because it is the simplest sound a human can make. (Ibid pg. 68.). 

 Because the need to communicate is basic to our nature, I pity my friend’s granddaughter as she sits is a classroom, struggling against basic instinct.  One day, I’m guessing, she’ll run afoul of her teacher. When that happens, if she’s read this blog, the girl will know what to say:  that conversation is the social glue without which societies might crumble.  The teacher, if she plays by the communication rules, will stop in her tracks and allow 500 milliseconds to pass before replying, “Huh?”

girls talking in class

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  1. lou wachsmuth October 6, 2014 at 8:47 am Reply
    So, I spent two hours in a writer's group and the most common word spoken was "Like". In my weekly Bible study group, one middle aged fellow uses "You Know" about every fifth word. Some of my own family members speak such broken up sentences that I have trouble staying the the room with a polite smile hiding my raging mind. Are other cultures using these crutches in communication? Or, do they have different tools?
    • Caroline Miller October 6, 2014 at 9:43 am Reply
      I'm not sure about other cultures, Lou. But if you listen carefully, eventually you're bound to hear a "huh?"

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Portland, Oregon author Caroline Miller had distinguished careers as an educator, union president, elected official and artist/advocate.

Her play, Woman on the Scarlet Beast, was performed at the Post5 Theatre, Portland, OR, January/February 2015

Caroline published a serialized novelette, Marie Eau-Claire, on the website, The Colored Lens.  She also published the story Gustav Pavel,  a parable about ordinary lives, choice and alternate potential, on the website Fixional.co.

Caroline has published four novels

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