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Opting Out

Sep 23, 2013
by Caroline Miller
"Lean In", "The Feminine Mystique", Ann San Su Ki, Betty Friedan, Leymah Gbowee, Sheryl Sandberg
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In the closing chapters of her best seller, Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg makes the following observation about her generation’s attitude toward feminists.

 In our defense, my friends and I truly, if naively, believed that the world did not need feminists anymore. We mistakenly thought that there was nothing left to fight for. (Lean In, by Sheryl Sandberg, Random House, Inc. 2013, pg. 142.)

As an old feminist, I smiled. “Welcome aboard,” I muttered quietly. Reading the first half of Sandberg’s book is like reading Betty Friedan’s 1963, The Feminine Mystique all over again. The list of challenges are so similar, I might almost despair that the movement accomplished anything. Of course, employment pages no longer list “jobs for women” and “jobs for men” and we do have an increased number of women in Congress and on the Supreme Court. The list of female astronauts has grown, too. Even so, Sandberg admits that in pursuing a career, “while gender is not openly acknowledged, it was still lurking below the surface. (Ibid pg. 143)

While I honor the author’s intent to offer women survival skills for the workplace, her book calls for no significant change and lacks Friedan’s probing questions about a woman’s role. Nor does she challenge the underlying premise that women should continue to play by a man’s rules. Instead, her advice is practical: how to succeed in the status quo. How to pursue a career without being labeled “a bitch.”

 I admit, visionaries are few, but they do exist. Leymah Gbowee, for example, used non-violent means to marshal thousands of women to pursue peace in Liberia. Ann San Su Ki, without competition or bloodshed, led a quiet revolution in Myanmar. Neither women attempted to find a niche in a man’s world. Both insisted upon changing the world in which they lived. Their strategy was to remind followers of the best that was in them, heedless of gender.

 We women are nurturers, and our wisdom is older than written history. I wait to honor the one who can remind us of that secret knowledge. I wait for the leader who teaches us not to lean in but to opt out. We must do it for the good of the planet.

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(Courtesy of barnes&noble.com)

 

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  1. S. L. Sto September 23, 2013 at 6:15 pm Reply
    I read that after India's constitution was amended to require a certain percentage of women on all public governing bodies, overall government spending took a radical turn toward the compassionate and far-sighted...more money was allocated to food, health, housing and education.There needs to be a recognition that tokenism is how the status quo is maintained. Sheer numbers are needed to make change.
    • Caroline Miller September 23, 2013 at 6:22 pm Reply
      I didn't know about the quota in India. Nor did I know about the effect of the requirement. Imagine what we could do if we spoke with one voice or at least in greater numbers. Thank you, Susan, for adding to the blog and to my hope.

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Portland, Oregon author Caroline Miller had distinguished careers as an educator, union president, elected official and artist/advocate.

Her play, Woman on the Scarlet Beast, was performed at the Post5 Theatre, Portland, OR, January/February 2015

Caroline published a serialized novelette, Marie Eau-Claire, on the website, The Colored Lens.  She also published the story Gustav Pavel,  a parable about ordinary lives, choice and alternate potential, on the website Fixional.co.

Caroline has published four novels

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  • Trompe l’Oeil
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  • Heart Land

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